2022 reflection and the start of a new year.

Welcome back!

At the end of every year, I would always set myself new goals/resolutions for the year ahead and I’m sure like many rarely manage to complete more than one thing on the list. The intention is always there but it just never seems to happen! 

Going into 2023 I started to question why this was? 

On reflection the things that I would write down were either far too big or not actually things I truly needed for myself. In fact, they would be a combination of things that I had seen other people do or set as goals for themselves or even goals others wanted or hoped for me. Everything I had been choosing for myself was being influenced by others, and most of those people I didn’t even know, I just followed on social media!

 One resolution/goal that appears on most of my lists is to finally learn to drive. Everyone always tells me, ‘You would have so much more freedom if you drove’, ‘your life would be so much easier if you could just jump in a car and go’… I would always agree and be left feeling less independent, and somehow like I was failing at being an adult.  I actually did go as far as to book my theory test because I’d somehow convinced myself based off everyone else’s opinion that that was the right thing to do! 

This year when I sat down to write my goals, once again, learning to drive was the first one down.  It suddenly occurred to me that it wasn’t my goal at all, I don’t actually want to learn to drive, the idea fills me with fear and quite honestly, I would be a hazard to other drivers. I’m not confident behind the wheel and I find it hard to focus!  I have managed pretty well for the last 35 years and am more than happy to continue using my legs to get me places or if needed jumping on a train. 

2022 was a big year of growth for me, most of which has been in terms of my Mental Wellness and mindset, the way in which I see myself, other people and just the world in general.  Each year when I’d look back over the things I hadn’t managed to achieve, I would be left feeling sad, useless and like I was continuously failing year after year. 

Fast forward to the end of 2022 and I finally saw sense, I may not have achieved the thing’s on my list but I’ve certainly learnt a lot! 

With this realisation I am committed to no longer putting myself through the torture, I have decided to shut out all the noise and opinions from the outside world and just do what’s right for me.

We live in a world that carries and puts a lot of pressure on people, to not only be and look a certain way but also to live a certain life. The expectations that every person should learn to drive, or that women should be married and settled down with children by the time they are in their 30’s! it’s all absolute rubbish!!

This year I am going to do things differently.

No Goals, No resolutions and

certainly no driving!

I am going in to 2023 living for each and every moment, allowing myself to step out of my comfort zone, take the opportunities that I am excited to take, focus on my new sense of self, continuing to work and look after my Mental and Physical well-being, and pour as much love and time into the people and things that truly make me feel happy and fulfilled in life… my family, my friends and my work. 

I do not wish to spend any more time trying to pursue a life based on the ideals of others, no one should…Be your own person, live your own life whatever that looks like, if resolutions and goals work for you then set them, if they don’t then don’t set them, just whatever you do, stay true to yourself and the person that you want to be. Learn the lessons that life sends your way and most of all be kind, be kind to yourself and be kind to others.

Happy New year!

❤️💚

Published by A Work In Progress

My name is Natalie, I am a 30 something year old wife and mum of two children and one cheeky dachshund called Winston. I am a Mental Health Blogger and aspiring motivational speaker. It was May of 2019 that I decided to set up my website A Work in Progress, to create a blog based primarily on the subject of Mental Health. I chose to call myself and my website A work in Progress because after so many years of trying to seek perfection, living with extreme Anxiety and Depression has really helped me to realise that the something I was looking for simply didn’t exist. No one is perfect nor will they ever be, we continuously evolve and grow through the different experiences we have and the hurdles we encounter, thus making perfect versions of exactly who we are at that time in our lives. The intention with my blog is to inspire other’s and help them through the tough times, whilst drawing awareness to a subject that still does not get enough attention. Over the last few years I myself have struggled with Mental Health illnesses, specifically Anxiety and Depression. I first began writing as a way of helping myself to deal with my illness. It allowed me to express how I felt in detail and in turn allowed me to process my thoughts and figure out how best to manage and deal with them. I hope to spread a little more kindness into a world that doesn’t always feel very kind. I believe it is so important to recognise the colossal impact kind words can have and remove the perception that we should aspire to be like someone else rather than be happy with who we are. I want to share my experiences with others, to show that although tough and a journey that takes time, it is possible to reach the lowest point in your life and come out the other side.

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